It’s been a while but I’m back with something VERY close to home. I feel like this post is going to make me come across like a young girl who thinks that she’s lived life and experienced everything. Yes. I am indeed a young girl, in the process of life and I’ve experienced enough to date.
I’m going to lay out these ‘Mind Salad’ posts a little differently so bare with me.
I’m not too sure where I’m going with this but I was definitely taken back with some of the definitions:
The state of being actual or real
This is obviously the most widely used definition of reality, right? We believe something is real when it’s tangible; when we can identify it with our five senses. However, this isn’t what I’m referring to! Whether or not you can see, hear, smell, touch or taste something it shouldn’t define whether it is real or a reality.
All of your experiences that determine how things appear to you
I think this is the definition I most agree with. What one person may consider a reality may not be the case for the next person. It’s not so easy to explain but take someone you might call ‘heartless’… what if they’re not really heartless? Perhaps they’ve endured some kind of traumatic experience that has, as a result, made them look at life differently? In the eyes of that person, guarding their feelings or being ‘heartless’ is their reality.
The state of the world as it really is rather than as you might want it to be
Now this definition just blew me away. The state of the world as it really is rather than as you might want it to be. If someone told me this was the definition of reality; I am FAR from a realist. Then again so are you, maybe… probably. Let’s face it, what might have been seen as a taboo twenty years ago is probably just frowned upon now. In the same breath, we have to learn to be compassionate as human beings; its the first rule of happiness. How you might want things to be or even wish they were may not meet with how they really are – we must not get caught up in fantasies but instead always be conscious of the state of the world around us.
Daily, I hear so many of people claiming they are a realist and how only real recognise real but forget the world and the people around you… do you live for others or do you live for yourself? In truth, if you live for others, you’re about as real as a mirage or you’re simply confined to what we call ‘tunnel vision’. Also, endeavour to remember that what you may define as ‘real’ or a ‘reality’ is not the same as someone else. Have a heart, not everyone experiences things and deals with them like you. This applies in so many situations.
I hope this is food for thought – any comments would be appreciated.
Love you all xo