“I AM” – Two of the most powerful words. For what you put after them shapes your reality.
Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of someone else.
– Judy Garland
As women, we spend so much time trying to follow the latest trends; whether it be make-up or hair or clothes when really.. it’s so much easier to create your own style. We spend so much buying into brands rather than appreciating our own individuality. In my teens, I moved from batch to batch (or ‘friendship groups’) so often yet I never felt like I fitted in. I found it so much harder to create my own identity and ‘soul-search’ when I was attached to a friendship group. In my adolescent years, I appreciate my own company and have so many different groups of friends and individuals that I mix with. I find that conversations are so much more meaningful and my experiences are all so different!
The thing women have yet to learn is nobody gives you power, you just take it.
– Roseanne Barr
By nature, i’m not really a social butterfly; I would describe myself as an introvert. Someone once said to me, as people we are either passive or assertive but never both. I am passive by nature. As women, the majority of us are socialised from a young age to be passive… through religion, upbringing and even the media! It’s time we learn, as women, that we need to be more confident, more self-assured, more positive.. we need to be assertive. We are taught to be home-makers and wait for our Kings but why can’t we be Home-makers and Kings ourselves? As a woman and as an assertive woman, I am in control of my destiny and I am defined by my decisions. If you want power, take it. Don’t wait for it, go out an get it; nobody will give it to you – you have to be assertive.
Figure out who you are separate from your family, and the man or woman you’re in a relationship with. Find who you are in this world and what you need to feel good alone. I think that’s the most important thing in life. Find a sense of self because with that, you can do anything else.
I see many Women out there who are carbon copies of their S.O (significant other) or their siblings or their parents etc. Why? You are an individual, you are bound to have different likes, interests and hobbies; all you have to do is soul search. I enjoy solitude as well as reflection and I believe it is a healthy habit. It’s impossible to be happy if you have no identity and you are not comfortable being alone… How can you present yourself to someone if you don’t know who you are? You will easily be manipulated throughout life if you have no true sense of ‘self’. Food for thought..
Woman must not accept; she must challenge. She must not be awed by that which has been built up around her; she must reverence that woman in her which struggles for expression.
If you want to grow, you must challenge everything including your own thinking and beliefs… Remember we are confined by the walls WE build. Even in relationships, we must not accept but instead challenge. Once you accept something from someone else that goes against everything you stand for; you lose that battle. Stand up for what you believe in, speak up and express yourself with intelligence and compassion. All of these well-respected Women that have opened doors for the rest of us did not accept but instead challenged. Their work is like a Glacier; if their legacy crumbles faster than we can build firm foundations then it ceases to exist.
If the desire to define, establish, and achieve equal political, economic, cultural, personal, and social rights for women makes me a feminist.. then indeed, I AM a Feminist.
Have a beautiful, feel-good Friday.